I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive.
Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note – torn in two, and burned up,
so that it never can be shown against one. ~Henry Ward Beecher
I have been working on the Forgetting part of Forgiveness. It seems to be a little more difficult.
How are you doing with it?
Forgetting definitely is the key to forgiveness. Without it , it´s not really forgiveness. I really think it´s the reason a marriage can work too. Sometimes having a bad memory works in our favor! It seems the longer I am married the shorter memory I have! hehe
thanks for your encouraging comments about the chores. I am working up to having them help with laundry. It would be a wonderful help. They do sort the dirty clothes and fold clean clothes. I run the machine at the moment but when asked they do their part. It would be great if they could get to doing it without me asking.
just wanted to see if my avetar would show up.
I signed up for word press and uploaded a picture but it isn´t putting it.. do you know why?
It’s a delicate balancing act isn’t it? Forgiving means letting go. But sometimes behaviors require us to set boundaries. That is not forgetting, that is being responsible.
Great post!
xoxo,
R
Theresa, I agree with Dani – forgiveness without forgetting isn’t really forgiveness. We have to look at Christ as our example. I have heard well meaning Christians say, “well, I forgive you, but I will never trust you with that again.” The heart of that is “because you did me wrong, I won’t forget it! – ever!”
The lack of forgiveness only steals from us and opens the door for the enemy to have a foothold in our life. The more we understand our own debt being paid in full with nothing held over our heads as payment, the more we can give back out to others all that we have received.